Think about the way you might dress if you were meeting a friend for a game of tennis. Would you
be the one in a co-ordinated outfit with ruffles on your panties and socks, or the one wearing a
comfortable over-sized T-shirt outside your shorts?
Think about how you might dress for a special date. What did you wear on your most recent
anniversary or the last time you were wined and dined? Was it a body hugging mini-dress or a lace
blouse and velvet skirt, or even a dressy jump suit?
So many varying ingredients go into making up one’s personal style that an actual definition is all but
impossible, but there is no doubt that style is shaped more by the subjective factors of attitude and
personality than by the concrete principles of fashion. Proportion, line, colour, and texture are
merely the tools of style. Style is the person herself – a person who believes in herself so much and
is so aware of the way she wants to look that she just puts it over. Style comes from within and is
simply displayed on the exterior.
Clothes constantly reflect what a person is about, but they don’t alter or change it. It is the
substance, the continuity of the person that is important.
Also note that a well-dressed woman is always well groomed. Her hair, her clothes, her nails, her
overall appearance speaks of proper grooming. She has the right clothes for the right occasion. This
gives her great confidence.
If you ignore your own personality and buy clothes influenced by glossy magazines, or by what your
friends buy and wear, you could end up with a wardrobe which is a muddle of styles. This would
limit your flexibility in mixing and matching to create combination outfits, and prevent you from
getting the most value from your clothing investments.
Meanwhile keep these basics in mind:
Wear your clothes: don’t let them wear you, you want to be remembered for who you are, not for
your smart black suit, or red polka dot dress.
Keep it simple. If you do decide to go all out and call a lot of attention to yourself (transparent
blouse; tight, tight skirts or pants), make sure you can handle the reactions.
Subtly play up your strengths. Figure out what you like best about yourself and let it shine through
like a beacon. You can play it safe with a white boho dress.
Don’t try to alter your style or personality to suit the occasion. This is a trap that ensnares a great
many people, but it is not relevant to life today, when individuality is prized and respected. Feeling
natural and selfconscious is an earmark of great style, and it shows in the way you carry your
clothes. Just be yourself wherever you are.
Stick with the colors, lines and shapes that work for you. If every time you wear a certain white
boho dress, for instance, you get comments on how great you look, and how beautiful your eyes are,
why go looking for a green blouse after?